PARENTING TIPS & TOPICS:
STRATEGIES and TECHNIQUES
MONTHLY TOPIC: GIVING EFFECTIVE COMMANDS
- First, make sure you have your child’s undivided attention – this may mean turning technology off; getting close to your child; and making sure you have eye contact with him or her.
- Give one command or step at a time, and then ask your child to repeat it back.
- Use a neutral voice that tells your child the specific behavior you are requesting (e.g., “I need you to wash up for dinner now”). It is important NOT to use a question (e.g., “Do you want to stop what you are doing and wash up now?”) because you need them to do what you are requesting.
- Break down large tasks, (such as room cleaning, homework, book reports, etc.) into many small steps. Have your child do one step before giving him/her the next one.
- Some children need to have a time limit on each step (e.g., using a timer).
- Give frequent, specific compliments to your child about the actual behavior such as, “I like the way you put the dishes in the sink”; “You did a great job working on that hard problem”.
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